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7 Tips To Help Your Dog Deal With Separation Anxiety

The terrible loneliness of dogs

How many dog lovers feel that dreadful pang of guilt every time we leave the house without our dog?  For some of us, it might be the worst time of day as the soft, brown eyes of our loyal canine companions follow our every preparation to go out with what we imagine to be a real sense of uncomprehending betrayal. But however much we miss our dogs, you can absolutely guarantee that they miss us more.

Dogs are very social creatures and by bringing them into our homes we have taken on a huge responsibility by making them dependent on us.

If a puppy or dog was able to make a list of the things that it wants most in life, being with the humans that whom it has bonded would be right at the top.

Lonely, not naughty
Lonely, not naughty

Lonely not naughty

Sadly, all across the world, dog shelters have been crammed this year with unwanted ‘pandemic puppies’.  As people have gone back to work, these dogs have suddenly become ‘naughty’ or ‘too much, or even ‘too needy’.

Some owners have despaired at behaviors such as destructive chewing of items as diverse as sofas, expensive clothing, and even their own dog beds.  Sometimes, a previously clean dog has started fooling around the house.

But what many of these owners do not realize is that this is not naughtiness, but symptoms of terrible stress.  This stress is called separation anxiety, and as with all potentially difficult situations in our relationship with our beloved dogs, the responsibility lies directly with us to prepare our canine buddies to be alone.

Even if we think our dog copes with being alone, we must all be aware that this can also be an invisible condition.  Pacing, whining and excessive drooling are other clear signs of high levels of stress, but these symptoms leave no physical evidence behind them.

One study of this in the United Kingdom used hidden cameras to show dog owners the levels of stress their dogs’ experience, leaving them shocked and often in tears.

Training your dog or puppy to cope with separation anxiety

This needs to be done through socialization and training, and it should be done as early as possible.  It is just as important, in fact arguably more important, than teaching a puppy to sit, come, or heel.

With this training in place, you save your puppy from a huge amount of anxiety and help them develop a calmer and more confident temperament.  For more general advice on how to help puppies become calmer as they grow please click here.

So here are 7 top tips for preventing or lessening your pup feeling the blues every time you walk out the door:

1) Leaving your puppy for a little while

All training should be based around positive reinforcement, where dogs are encouraged to associate a potentially difficult situation with something positive, such as a reward or a feeling of security and safety.

It is therefore crucial that a puppy learns to associate you leaving the house with both security and ultimately a positive outcome.  Also, just like any other training, it must be done in stages.

The first stage is to get your puppy used to being alone for short periods of time, while you are still in the home.  This will initially reassure the puppy that being alone is only temporary.

Secure your puppy in a room or area in which they are used to playing and being around you and perhaps your family. Do not shut the door, but, if possible, use a barrier that the puppy can see through such as a baby gate.

The best time to do this is immediately after the puppy has just had a good play or exercise in order to relieve the stress even further as your puppy will naturally be ready to rest.  You could also leave a favorite toy, chew, or other distraction for the puppy.

Do not make a fuss of your puppy as you leave.  This will not reassure them but only heighten their anxiety when not only does the attention come to an end, but you disappear completely.

At first, only leave for around 5 minutes.  Try to lengthen the periods of time the puppy is left alone by gradual extensions up to 15 minutes and then beyond.

This could include picking up your keys and leaving the house for a short time as your puppy’s confidence grows. Eventually, your puppy will get accustomed to this and use this time alone as an opportunity for a nice nap.

Shut in but not shut off – use a transparent barrier like a baby-gate to confine a puppy
Shut-in but not shut off – use a transparent barrier like a baby-gate to confine a puppy

2) Ignore the heart-breaking sounds of whining or yapping

Hard as it is, tries to ignore whining or yapping for your attention for those few minutes.  If you return then the puppy will think that this behavior will result in you magically reappearing leading to future confusion.

You don’t want to leave your puppy in distress for too long, but try to go back when there is a quiet moment.  This means you are using positive reinforcement to allow your puppy to associate being calm with your eagerly anticipated return.

Then return to your puppy showing them attention again, playing, or perhaps taking them out to the toilet if need be.  The puppy will then associate you leaving them with the joy of your return.

3) Create a safe place for your puppy

The place where you leave the puppy should be a little den or perhaps a crate where they can associate safety, security, and the place where they wait for you to come back.

The destructive behaviors of chewing mentioned above are actually a puppy or dog’s attempt to create a secure nest or barrier around them when they are anxious.  But in offering a comfortable bed or crate, with favorite toys and ideally something old that smells of you, you will create a snug little den for your dog.

4) A well-exercised and comfortable dog is a happy dog

A good rule of thumb for leaving your dog alone is to make sure that you do so when they are most rested and have had a recent opportunity to the toilet.

This means that your dog will be relatively relaxed as you leave, and less desperate for your return.  Indeed, it is likely that if you have to leave for a period of time, your dog will be ready for a walk when you come through the door.

This will strengthen the positive association of being left for a reasonable period as it becomes play-time and or walk-time when you are reunited. It also means time for the toilet.

What a joyous relief for your dog in more ways than one!

Provide a place that is safe and comfortable – ideally with some of your old clothes
Provide a place that is safe and comfortable – ideally with some of your old clothes

5) Never leave a dog or puppy alone for too long

Although preparing your dog for separation will build resilience in your puppy or dog, try to avoid leaving your dog alone for too long as this will lead to stress and discomfort.

Dog welfare organizations offer general guidelines for the maximum hours for this which increase as your dog grows older and more confident.  A fully grown dog should not be alone for more than 4 hours if possible, and certainly no longer than 6.

A puppy 3-6 months should be no longer than 3 hours.  A puppy even younger than this time should be restricted to a couple of hours.

6) Leave work/entertainment for idle paws

Ensure you leave your dog with things to distract them from boredom and loneliness.  This could include a Kong, safe chewable toys, or a long-lasting treat.

But be sure that you factor treats into your provision of the dog’s balanced diet as you will not want to replace the problem of loneliness with the health implications of your pooch becoming overweight.

Don’t tell your puppy off – she will not understand
Don’t tell your puppy off – she will not understand

7) Never tell off your dog for anything that happens when you are out

We can all feel stressed, particularly after a hard day at work.  But one of the worst things that we can do is get angry with our dogs for something that they have done while we were out. A dog will not associate our anger with something that could have happened hours ago.

Your puppy will not understand and this will add to the anxiety that a dog feels when you leave them alone, again leading to problems spiraling and more destructive or messy behaviors.

Like all areas of training, if your dog’s behavior goes in the wrong direction, then take the training back a few steps and patiently rebuild your dog’s confidence.

A happy reunion without the guilt of stressing your puppy
A happy reunion without the guilt of stressing your puppy

Alone but not lonely

There is no better companion than a dog and let’s face it: you will never get such a happy, elated reception when you walk through the door from anyone else.  It is one of the true joys of owning one of these wonderful animals.

How much better this feeling will be knowing our loyal friend has not been suffering too much in our absence.

Good luck with training your dog to cope with separation!

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